That about sums it up

[cherydactyl]

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[presterjon.livejournal.com]

Very poignant. I only know one guy who stays home to raise kids while his wife pursues a professional career. I respect him because he had the insight to determine that her earning potential was better than his and they made a very mutual decision. He's an awesome person and a truly fine parent. In some ways I envy him, since I don't ever see enough of my kid. BTW: For those who don't know my spouse and I, we are a household who both pursue careers while the kid is at daycare. Yet another decision with regrets, eh? Europe tends to be saner about such things. We have some confidence that our choice will result in more opportunities for the boy when he is older and we are both advanced in our careers. I hope we are right. I just spent this weekend away from home and the lost time is something I always dwell on.

[cherydactyl.livejournal.com]

The devaluation of child-rearing is a problem for both dads and moms. It's just more common for moms. Any parenting choice is of necessity a compromise, and I salute anyone who, as a parent, thinks about their choices and doesn't just let default rule. Part-time careers are just not done, and child-rearing is not always considered a reasonable reason for being absent or needing flex time, depending on the employer. I fully admit that not wanting to put my kids in full time care is as much if not more about me than about them.